Just Right

Confidence is not something you put on. It is a kind of resting in yourself.

Sometimes I feel like I’m not enough. Not as pretty as the girl in the magazine. Not as driven as the writer getting published. Not as courageous as the activist putting themselves on the line. When I want to be so many things other than who I am, when I desire so much more than what I have, I return to these simple words.

You, as you are, you are just right

your face, body, name

for you, they are just right.

Whether poor or rich

your parents, your children

your daughter-in-law, your grandchildren

they are, all for you, just right.

Happiness, unhappiness, joy and even sorrow

for you, they are just right.

by Goromatsu Mayekawa

A man once told me that confidence is not something you put on; it is a kind of resting in yourself. Instead of wishing I was more ambitious, popular, privileged, I can be grateful for having exactly what I have and for being exactly who I am in this moment. Those things I want to change – my straight hair, my un-Jennifer-Aniston-like arms, my tiny abode, my crazy relatives, my quiet moods, they are all just right for me.


    1. You are too sweet! It’s kind of sad, but I feel like I need this reminder most days. I really do think sometimes we can be our own worst critics. I’m so lucky to have an awesome friend like you to pull me out of self-doubt and the “not good enoughs.”

  1. Great post 🙂 It reminds me of a quote that’s been rattling around me for awhile:

    “Drop the idea of becoming someone, because you are already a masterpiece. You cannot be improved. You have only to come to it, to know it, to realize it.” ― Osho

    Confidence is an amazing thing. I’m excited to see you resting in yours more. So looking forward to your new project!

    1. Love it! In the middle of a whirlwind trip to LA/SF for filming a documentary about “rewriting the dream.” Can’t believe we’re doing it!

  2. Beautiful share sis! Love this! And thank you for the reminder….definitely needed to read this today! Love you 🙂

  3. “it is a kind of resting in yourself”– Love this. There are days when I’m pretty hard on myself, and it’s true that whatever I’m going through right now is what’s right for me– I can’t ask for anything else except the intentional decision to be okay with it, or to strive for the changes I want to see.

    That in itself is a good every day practice, and one that I hope becomes a habit for myself. 🙂 Thanks for posting it so eloquently.

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