I wanted to hibernate in my comfort zone for as long as I could. As each month passed, I knew I couldn’t stay in this same place much longer.
Over the summer I read Lia’s book Life Experience Design just when I needed a push. I had been living in a new city for six months and was feeling pretty afraid to take my next steps, i.e. finding a job, making new friends. She had a diagram with these three circles, one inside the other. The center had the word “comfort,” the next “stretch,” and the last “panic.” I realized for most of the past year I was living somewhere between stretch and panic, preparing for a cross country move while working full-time and keeping up with other projects.
Once we arrived, I wanted to hibernate in my (makeshift) comfort zone for as long as I could. As each month passed, I knew I couldn’t stay in this same place much longer. I had to peek out of my turtle shell and venture out into that stretch zone once again. She says you’ll know you’re stretching when “your motivation to accomplish a task and the task at hand are not boring or impossible – it’s a place with just the right amount of difficulty that you are giving it 100%.”
While it has probably taken me longer than most, I’m glad I finally found the guts to join a meetup group and apply to that dream job. Somewhere between anxiety and boredom, panic and comfort, I found a sweet spot.